would this bother any of you?? i am just wondering
Today, I was sitting in iHop with my girlfriend of six months when she brought in her son of three years she had neglected to tell me about, and asked 'Does this change things?' FML
Queenie <3
I'm not a Princess..... I don't need saving. I'm a freaking Queen I got this shit handled.
If I were in a relationship for this amount of time and this blindsided me as it did you I would definitely have a problem with it. Reason being, if it was kept from me for this long what else now or in the future will this person be keeping from me.
I'm sure after 6 months that this person had plenty of time to bring up the fact that they had a child. Hiding it only makes it seem suspicious. Why would someone hide this from someone they're getting this involved with? Why blindside them from outta nowhere? Is she ashamed of her child? The fact that she has one?
Run for the hills now Queen. Find someone that will be up front and honest from the get go or your gonna end up regretting it later. This type of information is at the very least second date material. I would not bring it up the first date but I damn sure would for the second one. The first date in my eyes has always been preliminaries. Finding out and giving out just enough information to figure out if this person is worthy of the second date. Once you know their not a freakazoid then you should divulge all of that type of information.
The only way I would consider not running the other direction is depending upon the explanation and the way I felt up to that point about the person. I would take into account how it made me feel and if I felt I could trust this person again not to hide things from me. Obviously it made you feel uncomfortable or perhaps bothered you in some way. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked us here.
My scincere advise to you is to take your time and think about wether this matters to YOU. Screw everyone else, Make YOU happy first and then the rest is easy. Yeah?
I'm wishing you the best of luck with this and hope it all turns out well. If you need to talk you may pm me or post it here. I'll do my best to listen and if I have any advise I'll offer it to you. Bottom line is tho you have to make the choices and hopefully whatever they are you end up happy.
If it is about a website (just noticed what fml is) then by all means you may re-post it there with a few edits to remove you from it personally. Just saying I don't mind it being out there for someone to use for helpful advise.
lol..it was from Fmylife.com.....i read it and i wanted to share it..but damn ZV that was good advice! if i ever need to talk to someone..i am soo going to ask ya....i just could not believe that she didn't tell him sooner...the guy i am now dating knew about my daughter from the start! i am not shy and not ashamed to tell everyone that i am a mother! i am proud to be one....i love my daughter very much and if the guy that i am dating wants to know me he needs to know all of me... as a lover, friend and mother...so that is what i did and he is still here..maybe she was afraid that he would run if he knew she was a mother...most guys don't like women with kids...
ZV do you always type a lot?? you are long winded my brother..lol..i am not going to re post it..i am just too lazy for that haha!
Queenie <3 I'm not a Princess..... I don't need saving. I'm a freaking Queen I got this shit handled.
At first I was wondering is it fml or real??? Then Sci posted like it was real and I was like still confused then finally I find out its fml lol =) like Dr you guys should do BIG HUG!!
Last Word , I too was amuzed at your question Quennie , and thought it was done with humor...Kinda like "Why is the alphabet in that order? but then I read ZV's reply and thought maybe it is a serious question.It made me think about what this clan is about and some of it's memebers. We all signed up for comradarie and fun , but I think it has shown me that it can also be a place where if you have a problem other than computer related , someone is willing to listen and try to help...ZV showed that...a lot of CLASS !!!!!!!!!! I am glad to call you my friend.
man that was the strangest thing i ever readed it the same as if i were saying that the girl i am dating has a identic sister and that during 6 month im with her other sister without knowing it when the girl i loved was the first one i talked too still i like this text and what zv wrote its pretty smart :)
well it is a family.....i love talking 2 u guys..you r almost like my other family that i chill with....ZV did give good advice thou....now i know where 2 go when i need it...Group hug everyone! HUGZ!!!! hehe
Queenie <3 I'm not a Princess..... I don't need saving. I'm a freaking Queen I got this shit handled.
